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Adam and Eve is hailed as the #1 Adult Superstore. They often have the biggest selections and best prices on all things erotic. Check out their pages For Her, For Him, and For Couples! 


The New School of Erotic Touch offers step-by-step video classes showing viewers how to give vaginal, penis, and anal massages. The videos are a bit dated but the instruction is thorough.

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For decades, Taschen has made the most beautiful art books in the world. In addition to Helmut Newton's Sumo, which is pictured above, they have a collection of erotic photography and painting books that make a unique gift for yourself or someone special.

The first Babeland store was opened in 1993 in response to the lack of women-friendly sex shops in Seattle. The store offers top quality products along with advice, tips, and information to people who want to explore their sexuality. Don't miss their how-to section. 

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WeVibe creates toys that are controlled by a remote or synced through an app called WeConnect. Especially great for long-distance couples, their products are also great for enhanced clitoral and G-spot simulation during sex.

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Liberator specializes in sex furniture and pillows designed to help give lovers access to certain angles and positions with ease. Pictured here is the original Wedge pillow, which is ideal for providing support and lift for missionary and anal, as well as providing the perfect angle for longer oral sessions.


Online Lab Tests:

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EverlyWell's at-home STD Test for women tests for 7 common STDs, including: Chlamydia, Gonorrhea, Hepatitis C, Herpes Type 2, HIV, Syphilis & Trichomoniasis. The kit is easy to use, the service is great, and the turnaround time is about 2 weeks. They accept HSA/FSA payments. 

This at-home test from EverlyWell will help determine if your hormones are balanced to support normal ovarian function needed for pregnancy. They accept HSA/FSA payments. 

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This at-home test from EverlyWell will check for 14 high-risk HPV genotypes and give you insight into your risk of getting cervical cancer. They accept HSA/FSA payments. 

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EverlyWell's at-home STD Test for men also tests for 7 common STDs, including: Chlamydia, Gonorrhea, Hepatitis C, Herpes Type 2, HIV, Syphilis & Trichomoniasis. They accept HSA/FSA payments. 

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This at-home test looks at four hormones that can affect mood, weight balance, sex drive, muscle mass, and energy levels. They accept HSA/FSA payments. 

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This at-home test from EverlyWell checks to see if you are producing adequate testosterone for your age. They accept HSA/FSA payments. 


Essential Reading:

In Mating in Captivity, Esther Perel argues that those with enduring sex lives are able to blend two conflicting needs: our need for security and our need for surprise. She discusses when we are most drawn to our partners and why, our turn-ons and offs, balancing love and desire, reconciling domesticity and sensuality, and how to give and receive pleasure in long-term relationships.

Rethinking Infidelity is the first book of its kind; it’s a very thoughtful look into Esther Perel’s conversations and therapy sessions with couples from around the world as well as insights from part-time lovers. I think everyone has been affected by an affair in some way and think you may be surprised when reading what comes up for you or what behaviors or suffering you might recognize in someone that you know.

"Why do individual preferences and patterns of arousal vary so dramatically? Why are most of us attached to specific turn-ons? And what do our turn-ons reveal about who we are and what we're searching for? These and other unanswered questions lie at the heart of this book," says author Jack Morin. Even if you already have a solid understanding of your desires, The Erotic Mind is bound to ask you questions and offer insights no one else has.

If you and your partner are thinking about opening up your relationship, I would recommend reading Opening Up first. Tristan Taormino asks important couples everyone should reflect on before venturing down this road.

John Gottman and his wife Julie studied more than 3,000 couples over a period of 40 years  in order to understand the habits that can make or break a marriage. Seven Principles is the summary guide for couples who seek a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. Learn how to prevent conflicts before they start.

There are 5 love languages and most people tend to have a primary language: Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, and Physical Touch. Author Gary Chapman suggests each love language is important and more importantly, learning your partner's and your own primary love language will help create a stronger connection in your relationship.

If you are feeling blocked or stagnant, if you're choosing the wrong partners or are sabotaging any aspect of your life, The Drama of the Gifted Child is a must-read. By gifted, the author is describing a child's ability to create survival strategies rather than any particular gift or talent. The aim of this book is to identify childhood survival strategies that are no longer working and help the reader adopt more beneficial approaches. 

One of the most comprehensive books about how sex works, The Good Vibrations Guide to Sex covers all of the basics. If you or someone you know is new to sex or if you've wondered "what the hell is going on down there," this book might be a good place to start.

Hands down, Your Brain on Porn is the most informative book available regarding education and information around online porn overuse. Gary Wilson is a former physiology teacher who takes a science-based approach to the topic. I personally know several men who this book has helped. All new research, stories, and talks are posted on his site: